Why is verbal and mental abuse to men by women not considered domestic violence?

I have had court orders sent to a woman (after I moved out)who reminds me of Rosie Odonnell. She considers her actions the way to "resolve the problem - I consider it a waste of time and I want to move on" Badgering, trying to control a conversation, etc. She just started acting like this 8 months ago and I started tuning her out then. She has violated the order 7 times and the police can not arrest her until they catch her in the act. They claim that they do not EVER get claims against women by men. My only option because I do not know where she draws the line is to stop her.